Hey savvy Shameless readers, I’m getting stoked for a piece I’m writing for the next issue of the magazine, and it’s on, yes indeed, masturbation. So in the interest of research, I am soliciting your stories, opinions, and advice here. Tell me all about your experiences letting your fingers do the walking, dialing the rotary phone, uh, playing the clitar? (List of hilarious euphemisms here.) My questions are, namely:
When and how did you learn to masturbate? Did it change how you think about and relate to your body and your sexuality? Do you have any technical tips or advice?
Write your response in the comments section of this post, below. You can leave as much information in your post as you’d like - your name, age, and city, or any of the above, or nothing at all - you can make up a fake name or post anonymously. If you do leave a comment, be warned (or honoured) that I may be quoting you as a Master Bator in the next issue of Shameless.
By the way, although I’m happy for everyone who gets joy from yanking the chank, I’m only looking for stories from (self-identified) women for this piece. I’ve already read Portnoy’s Complaint, sorry guys.
Thanks! If you need a little inspiration, here’s Cyndi Lauper with her classic anthem about tiptoeing through the twolips (umm… yeah. That’s what I said), She Bop.
(YouTube won’t let me embed the video, so… come back real soon!)
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Hi there! I'm excited for this article! Here are my answers:
When and how did you learn to masturbate?
Honestly? I don't remember. I've been doing it for so long that I never remembering discovering it, and I've been doing it since then. I remember the chats that my mom and dad had with me, when I started getting a bit too old to do it in the living room in front of everyone (but too young to understand).
Did it change how you think about and relate to your body and your sexuality?
I think the relaxation my parents had with it was very empowering (but my mom is still a prude when it comes to general sex with others). I think it caused me to become very indepedent - I didn't get a boyfriend until I was 21 and I never really wanted to have sex for a lot of my adolescence. Now that I'm having sex I KNOW what I want and I think that's all due to my masturbation experience.
Do you have any technical tips or advice?
Honestly? I never thought the g-spot would be so fun until I got a boyfriend and he felt his way around. Until then I was just playing around, but the g-spot orgasm is a truly unique feeling.
Posted by Catherine
November 4, 2008, 2:58 PM
I've always done it that I remember, before I knew what sex was. When I started to learn about sex, it became a little strange though. Kids today learn about rape first then sex and throughout there is masterbation. As a kid this led me to some thoughts regarding masterbation which I'm glad I managed to keep in as background noise and not bother me too much until I learned that in fact there WAS something else not fundamentally evil that I could imagine going on in my crotch which involved the opposite sex. Some of the time though, especially early on, it was all about feeling and there was no thinking that went with it. Now, very occasionally, words, usually erotica, help get me where I want to be.
My advice? Try stuff. Stand up, sitt on the side of the bathtub, open up the whole passageway from your front end to your back end and remember that touching your breasts and nipples also may change things.
And don't worry if you can't find the g-spot or don't make noises or don't look very movie perfect.
Posted by no name
November 5, 2008, 12:52 AM
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